3 reasons you might be lacking self-esteem

Have you been feeling low, unconfident and lacking in self-esteem? 

Well, you are not alone! It is reported that 85% of people lack self-esteem. Self-esteem is the perception you have of yourself. It is your belief in your ability and there is a multitude of reasons that you might be starting to believe "you CAN'T".


Stress is one of the main causes of low confidence. Being stressed leads to anxiety, depression and a constant feeling of nervousness and it's no surprise that these can create a feeling of low self-esteem. person. Not feeling good enough prevents a person from being able to achieve their goals (or feel a sense of accomplishment when they do) so before they know it an ongoing circle of low motivation, incompetence, doubt and depression take over.

Reducing stress will naturally enable you to think more clearly and perform more effectively. A massage is one of the best ways to relieve stress. As the masseuse's hands slowly work warm oil over your aching muscles to relieve the tension you can unwind and allow your troubles to melt away. Giving yourself a boost with regular stress-busting massage will stop the feelings of stress from building up and causing regular bouts of low self-esteem.


Constant and in-depth thinking can quickly turn to brooding obsession. Over-analyzing everything can be a personality trait or can develop associated with specific events or low point in your life. Overthinking can often negatively impact your day to day life and provoke feelings of inadequacy and that nothing is good enough.

To break the cycle of overthinking take a step away from your daily life and mix up your routine. Give yourself permission to NOT think for a day and practice being able to ‘let things go'. A Spa is a tranquil, blissful environment in which you can truly switch off and reset. Often the effects of overthinking take their toll on the body in physical ways too. A luxury facial could help replenish dehydrated skin with hand-picked products to compliment your tailor-made treatment, leaving you calm, collected and glowing with positivity.

Striving for perfection

We all want to be the best version of ourselves that we can, however, often this can escalate to striving for an unachievable standard of perfection. Constantly setting your standards excruciatingly high will cause you to burn out trying to achieve them, and if you don't you are left bereft. Comparing yourself to others can also lead to feeling down about yourself and generally put you in a place where you feel not good enough.

A change in mindset can be all it takes to help you be more realistic and kinder to yourself. Of course, you can have hopes, dreams and aspirations - but make sure you don't mentally beat yourself up if you can't reach them all at once. Give yourself a break, you are only human. Break big goals down into smaller achievable chunks and reward yourself on completion for each milestone. This will generate feelings of positivity (pat yourself on the back) and motivate you to keep going whilst feeling great about yourself. Real rewards like going out for celebratory dinner or enjoying a beauty treatment or a spa day is an amazing way to maintain a balance between working towards goals and enjoying life. 

Book that manicure and wear your new-found confidence on the outside. Girl, rock those ‘I got this' red nails and remember that you deserve to give yourself a break. 

You got this. 

Elements Boutique Spa is an award-winning, luxury spa set amongst the Somerset Levels in Somerset. To book a spa day, massage, facial, or any of our treatments, please get in touch. Email spa@windmillretreat.co.uk or call 01823 698951.

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